Its the term used to describe psychological manipulation that causes a person to question their sense of reality – and sometimes even their sanity…
I read a very interesting article today and felt the need to share..
Gaslighting occurs in places you may expect to hear about…the home, the relationship…yet also in the places you frequent but not necessarily associate with the time spent and needed to allow such an impact on your human…
Your weightloss group, the workplace coffeeshop….the nursery or school gates…ever walked away from these meeting grounds and just felt off…not able to quite put your finger on it…but feel like a cloud has just descended over your previously light self..
Gaslighters have a fondness for exploiting the insecurities of others, they thrive in the misfortune of others and give empty compliments…they draw you in with nice words accompanied with a negative energy.
As you know if you have worked with me for a while, you can and will attach cords of negative energy to your spiritual energy field and carry/drag them around with you as if they are yours……feeling burdened? Likely you are carrying around energy cords of others negative impacts.
How to avoid….be careful of being sucked into the gossip and drama of those whose eyes light up when speaking about the misfortune of others, whilst coupling with empty compliments.
The school playground or gates, a highly competitive place for parents, can bring out the manipulative side of people who always like to be on top.
A gaslighter will want you on side as quickly as possible…they will find there way into your trust with often empty compliments…flattery. We all love feeling good and hearing good things about ourselves….so look out for the overly friendly non friend. The one who throws out compliments on your style, your kids, your parenting…how do you do it all when looking so good…asks for details on how great you are in there eyes….when even your nearest and dearest don’t venture that deep..
Being told how amazing you look, when you’ve rushed out of the house with bed hair, sleep still in your eyes…and odd shoes on…well come on…
Of course there are those that are naturally and generally kind…the gaslighter will feel unauthentic…it will feel off. Your energy will lower.
Gaslighting friends or family (eek) are like emotional vampires, you will feel exhausted after spending time with them because they always focus on life’s negatives….yours and other peoples.
Why…..the feeling of sharing the mire, makes there mire disappear – take a back seat. They take a joy and comfort in knowing that others are unhappy or struggling…so that they don’t have to face their true selves and their own reality. To the point that if there is no gossip…they’ll create it…or entice you to.
So….has a lightbulb just gone off for you….you are experiencing a gaslighter……or have you just noticed these traits in yourself…
This article was inspired by the work of Dr Stephanie Sarkis.
If you wish to chat here or share your experiences….it would be lovely to hear from you.
In love xxx